To live a purposeful life you need confidence. In her book ” The Confident Woman” Joyce Meyer examines what she sees as some of the reasons why some women are confident and others are not. Let’s take a look at some of the reasons that she calls ” Seven Secrets of a Confident Woman”.
Secret #1 A confident woman knows that she is loved
To feel complete as a human being we need to know that we are loved. To know that despite our flaws we are accepted just as we are. Everyone of us desires and needs love and acceptance from other people. If you are around people who discourage you and put you down find someone who loves you for who you are. Each one of us is special and deserves to be treated so.
God loves us and can provide others to love us too if we just ask him. God’s love is unconditional and is there if you ask him. If you’re feeling unloved go ahead and ask God into your life.
Secret #2 A confident woman refuses to live in fear
It is normal to be fearful in unknown circumstances but don’t let fear rule decisions and actions. Timothy 1 verse 7: ” For God did not give us a spirit of fear” and Hebrews 10:38 tells us to live by faith and not draw back in fear. Faith encourages us to step forward, try new things, be the people we were meant to be. Fear causes us to draw back in misery and live in torment, afraid to act because of what others might say. Be brave. Be confident and refuse to live in fear.
Secret #3 A confident woman is positive
Being positive or negative is a choice you can make each day. Choose to be positive and see what a difference it can make in your day.
Secret #4 A confident women recovers from setbacks
Setbacks are not failures. If something doesn’t work do not consider yourself a failure. Many of the successful people in this world did not get where they are by accident but by failing more times than anyone else. The only difference is that they accepted failure as inevitable on the path towards success. They also tok action, worked fast in order to fail faster knowing that the faster they recovered from setbacks the faster they would find out what worked for them.
Secret #5 A confident woman avoids comparisons
It’s not possible to be confident if we are always comparing ourselves with other people. Everyone of us has different gifts. Don’t try to become good at something just because someone else is. Their talents are different to yours. Instead choose to focus on your gifts, the areas in life in which you excel. You’ll be a lot happier and more confident if you do.
Secret #6 A confident woman takes action
Just do it. If you want to do something don’t just think about it but actually take action and do it. Too many of us think and plan and analyze but don’t put the plan into action. We start thinking of everything that could go wrong. You’ll never know unless you try! Don’t spend your life wishing but see what results from taking action. If you make a mistake look at what went wrong, change it and press forward again with new action.
Secret #7 A confident woman does not live in “if only” and “what if”
To be confident we must take out the “if only” and “what if” from our vocabulary. These phrases are not productive and can result in a life time of feeling empty and unfulfilled. Instead we need to think about what we do have rather than what we don’t.
As Joyce Meyer writes in the conclusion to seven secrets of a confident woman: “if you pay more attention to your thoughts and choose to think on things that will help you instead of hinder you, it will release God’s power to help you be the confident woman God wants you to be. Think confident and you will be confident!” To find out more about Joyce Meyer visit joycemeyer.org